Living with Traumatic Brain Injury

When he was 18 he and some friends were out partying and drinking and they were going 70 mph on a highway, when all of the sudden he decided to do a U turn right smack in front of a semi and he almost died. Today at 28yrs old, by looking at him you’d never think that he had a TBI.

We married 4years later and with 3 years of marriage we decided to have a baby. Let me back up a little, 5months before our wedding day…he began having G-ma seizures out of the blue. That was pretty scary….about a year into our marriage we finally got the seizures under control and he hasn’t had one since.

The bad thing about his TBI is that after we had our baby that’s when I first began noticing his change in personality. He began to be very aggressive and paranoid. I would have never thought he’d ever get physical with anyone, but he began to be that way with me. He began to not trust me and I never did anything to jeopardise the trust he had with me. The final straw came after he punched my Mom in the face.

Who is this Man? I keep asking myself this. He looks like the same person I married on the outside, but some things have changed on the inside of him. After 6 years of marriage, I have filed for divorce for fear of not being able to deal with his personality changes. He has begged me to reconsider, and it is hard for me not to.

I love him, but it’s hard when you have a 3year old. Is there a way we can still remain a family? Do things ever get better or is it a continually down hill from here? He has checked himself into a Treatment program of his own free-will and we’ve been through group sessions and one on one session. I just started seeing a Therapist by myself. What next? More than anything I just want my family back, but I don’t know if it’s possible.